SELF CONFIDENCE, WHAT IS THAT ?


It's kind of weird for me to write about a topic that I'm not completely 100% sure on. Yes, I'm confident in certain aspects of my life but I am human and I still lack self-confidence somewhat. I feel like as you become older you start accepting who you are and over time your confidence builds up.

 I can look back to when I was in middle school, I most definitely lacked confidence. I was very shy and timid. I was not comfortable with my body. Growing up and even now, I have always been pretty slender and tiny. I never liked to be the center of attention and I still don't. That's just something I will always be like. In middle school, all the girls my age were going through puberty and were developing way faster than I was. I guess you can say that's why my tomboy phase started. I dreaded wearing tight and form fitting clothes. I refused to wear dresses. The idea of me looking super girly was a no go for me. As I got older and when to high school, I still kinda dressed like a tomboy but with a girly flair to it. I stopped wearing braids and used to go to the salon and get my hair done. I even wore a dress and heels to prom and my graduation. But I still lacked in self-confidence. Four years later, here I am wearing heels, dresses, and makeup. Don't be fooled, I'm still a tomboy at heart.


Over the last few years, I have learned to stop worrying about how others think about me. I have accepted what God has blessed me with.  Who cares what people think about you? If they're not supporting you financially or mentally, their opinion is pointless. Don't try to be a perfectionist. You only have one life to live, so live it how you want to.  Yes, you should be confident in your appearance but also every aspect of your life. Like I've been saying all year, It's "SHOOT YOUR SHOT 17". Which means stop being scared and go after what you want. Nothing will be handed to you.

Honestly, confidence comes from within. You have to be your hype man. Also, God is your hype man and he is always rooting for you. Your thoughts are really where your confidence comes from. If you're thinking negatively 24/7 you won't feel confident about anything. If you look good and feel good, I promise you, you'll feel super confident about anything!

Here are a few ways I boost my confidence:
1. Listen to my favorite R&B playlist.
2. Do my makeup and hair.
3. Put on a poppin outfit and take photos for the gram.

Like I said before, self-confidence will not happen overnight. It's taken me awhile to be comfortable with who I am. I'm still a working progress and so are you! Comment down below how you boost your self-confidence.

As always,
STAY BLESSED


24 comments :

  1. Listening to music always build my spirit up even when I don't feel my best. I feel confidence does take time but having the mindset of being confident helps as well.

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  2. MUSIC IS THE HOLY GRAIL TO FIX ANY MOOD

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  3. Yes to music! Wearing an outfit I feel good in. Spending time with people who appreciate me. Looking in the mirror and (as dumb as it sounds) saying, actually, I'm not so bad.

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    1. I must admit I look in the mirror too and give myself pep talks.

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  4. Great tips! I can def use some tips on self confidence.

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  5. I've always had the same issue with being slim as well and was picked on for it in high school. But I'm starting to find the confidence to wear certain things. Really good post!

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    1. Us slim girls need to unite lol Thank you for checking out my blog!

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  6. Extremely Motivating.Great tips !!

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  7. Self-confidence is tied to self-esteem - which is the way you feel about yourself (not how you think others feel about you). So it can be important to notice your self-talk and if it's positive or negative.. and find ways to boost your self-esteem if it might be negative. So glad to hear you have been able to boost your self-confidence recently! Great post. :)

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  8. Great post! I totally agree that how you feel about yourself starts with your thoughts. I've recently started paying more attention to my thoughts and I've noticed that I feel so much better! Also, God is our hype man. The only hype man that never leaves us no matter what, besides ourselves of course lol. Pretty pictures too!

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    1. You better preach! lol Thank you for checking out my blog.

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  9. not sure if my message got posted...mobile phones huh!
    anyway, I saw myself in some of what you said. isn't it great to start the path to becoming who you are meant to be no matter what anyone else thinks or does about it? Empowering!

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    1. Yes girl! We are total control of our self esteem and confidence! Thank you for checking out my blog.

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  10. Your skin is flawless! Loved the tips, sometimes I definitely have days where I just put on makeup to make myself feel good.

    Jenny x
    https://www.jennyrosee.com

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    1. Omg I wish. It's the magic of makeup haha. Thank you for stopping by and checking out my blog!

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  11. Great tips, I agree especially with the music part! :)

    Elisabet | www.fashionpoetry.eu

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  12. Love this post! We are very similar because I also listen to music and put on cute outfits for Instagram to boost my self esteem :)

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